Networking: Embrace the Awkward and Grow your Career

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by Jo Wood
Published: Tuesday, 19 November, 2024

Overcome Networking Nerves

Let’s talk about networking. The word alone can spark nerves and that slight awkwardness many of us know too well. I remember my first time at a networking event—walking into a posh hotel lobby, feeling completely out of place, and not knowing a single person in the room. Being naturally introverted, I was terrified! But I made a decision to overcome my networking nerves, took a deep breath, walked over to a small group of women, and introduced myself. To my relief, they were all friendly, and I soon settled in. That moment not only allowed me to overcome my immediate fear, but it also led to a connection with a woman I still keep in touch with today.

Over the years, this connection has proven invaluable - not just for career advice, but as a source of inspiration and encouragement. She’s been a mentor, a sounding board, and a reminder of the power of pushing through uncomfortable moments. That single decision to step out of my comfort zone was the beginning of a relationship that has had a lasting impact on both my career and personal growth.

The experience taught me how worthwhile it is to push past the nerves and give it a go. So, while networking might feel daunting, it’s one of the best ways to open doors and move forward in your career. Whether you’re looking to gain more visibility, build connections, or simply learn from others, networking is invaluable. The challenge? Actually enjoying it—or at least feeling comfortable enough to make it worth your time.

Here’s a look at why networking matters and a few tips to help ease into it. Spoiler: it doesn’t have to be perfect, and it doesn’t have to be painful.

Group of people at a business networking event

Why Networking is Key

Networking isn’t just about passing out business cards or memorising elevator pitches. It’s about building real connections. These connections often lead to unexpected opportunities—a conversation with one person can spark a recommendation, offer, or collaboration down the line. Especially as women, forming these professional relationships can be pivotal in reaching our goals.

In fact, many women on our Crossing Thresholds programme tell us that one of the most beneficial aspects is the supportive environment. The women they meet often become trusted confidantes, providing encouragement far beyond the 12-month programme. These connections aren’t just for now; they can last a lifetime, becoming a valuable source of support and inspiration.

Beyond my own personal experience, the research backs this up: women who overcome networking nerves and cultivate a female-centered network are statistically more likely to progress in their careers. According to a study by Northwestern University, women with a strong, female-dominated inner circle are 2.5 times more likely to advance into leadership roles than those with predominantly male networks. This kind of network provides support, offering trustworthy, gender-relevant insights on workplace culture that are often essential in male-dominated spaces.

If networking feels daunting, know that building these supportive, long-lasting connections can be an incredible asset—not just for today, but for years to come. The reality is people hire people. They recommend people. They remember people. By putting yourself out there, you’re increasing the chance that you’ll be that person when the right opportunity comes along.

The Struggle is Real

If the idea of networking feels uncomfortable, you’re not alone. 

Many of us find it nerve-wracking to introduce ourselves to strangers or start conversations in a room full of unfamiliar faces. It can feel forced or transactional, which often leads to awkwardness. And if you’re not naturally outgoing, the thought of ‘small talk’ can make you cringe.

How can you move past the discomfort, overcome networking nerves and get the most out of making new connections?

Worried woman at a networking event

Tips to Make Networking Less Awkward and More Productive

Instead of seeing networking as a task, approach it with curiosity. Think of it as an opportunity to meet interesting people, learn about their journeys, and exchange insights. When you take the pressure off yourself to “network” and focus on genuine curiosity, it helps you overcome networking nerves, and the conversations often flow much easier.

Networking doesn’t have to start at a big industry event. Begin with smaller, less formal settings - like a coffee chat with a colleague or a virtual event. These lower-stakes settings can help you build confidence. The more comfortable you get, the easier it becomes to step into bigger networking spaces.

Setting a simple, realistic goal can make networking more manageable. It could be as easy as “I’ll meet three people” or “I’ll ask two people about their career paths.” Having a purpose keeps you focused and gives you a reason to initiate conversations. Just remember, the goal isn’t to impress but to connect.

Awkward moments will happen, and that’s okay. Maybe you stumble over your words or don’t know what to say next. Own it. You could even make a light-hearted comment like, “Networking can feel a bit awkward, can’t it?” Most people feel the same way and will appreciate the honesty. Sometimes, those little moments of authenticity make the biggest impact.

Networking doesn’t end when the event does. Without a follow-up, the time you spent overcoming nerves and making connections could easily be wasted. This is where the real value of networking comes in - nourishing those contacts. A thoughtful follow-up can turn an initial introduction into a lasting relationship. It doesn’t need to be lengthy or formal; a simple message like, “It was great meeting you at [event]” or “I really enjoyed our conversation about [topic]” can make a significant impact. What’s most important is to make the follow-up intentional and personal. This is your opportunity to reinforce that you value the connection, which will keep the conversation alive and pave the way for future opportunities. After all, the purpose of pushing through those networking nerves is to create meaningful relationships - and thoughtful follow-up is key to making that happen.

10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation

To help you feel more at ease in conversations, why not watch Celeste Headlee’s TED Talk, 10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation. It’s full of practical advice to make conversations smoother and more enjoyable, especially helpful if you feel a bit awkward breaking the ice.

And if you're new to networking, Thresholds offers regular networking sessions designed to make it easier to connect. These events are a great way to practice in a supportive space. Why not give it a try? Check out our events page for more details.

Final Thoughts: Overcoming Networking Nerves Really pays off!

With a little practice, it can become a natural (and even enjoyable) part of your career journey. Remember, it’s not about collecting contacts - it’s about building relationships. Give yourself permission to be a little awkward, a little unsure. Those moments are often what make us most relatable, and ultimately, most memorable.

So, the next time you’re at an event or in a situation where networking is on the table, try one of these tips. You might just surprise yourself with the connections you create - and the doors they open.

About the Author: 

Jo Wood is a Thresholds Facilitator and Public Speaking Coach. Find out more at www.epiphanycoaching.co.uk or LinkedIn.

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